Friends and affirmations

When you’re having a dark night of the soul, and it’s lasting all day long, you have to reach out to speak to your friends. If you just ask yourself what your friend would tell you you’d be on the way to being all right.  It’s sort of like bread crumbs, that is, the trail that friends leave for they confirm and affirmation yourself.

It’s true that good friends will call you out on your stuff.  That’s sort of like when your mom would call you to dinner.  In the city, everyone could pick their mother’s voice out from the crowds of sounds that people, buses, trucks, trains and everything else created and know it was time for dinner.

Well, a friend calls you when you’re wrong and right. And you know it is, as a friend of mine would say, “Spot on.”  They got you and it’s time to go home for dinner.  This time it might be eating crow but another time you might be able to have that dessert.  The information from a friend doesn’t seem as difficult to take, the being wrong part that is, as it might from someone else. There’s power structures all over the place and somehow a friend is excluded from them, they’re not a part of that cause and effect reflex many of us have that makes us grit our teeth and grrrrrrrrrrrrr when our partners or supervisors or whoever it is in the structure “above” us disagrees or criticizes us.  As Yoda might say, “Amazing it is the power of going along with someone and finding common ground.” Friends bring their own circle of peace along with them.  That friend gene is ingenious.  It’s the psyche’s soft judo.  The energy is molded to the situation and there’s a smooth turnover from the place you thought you were in to the one you find yourself now. And sometimes that’s clear across the room.

If there’s not enough hours in your day let the dark nights go. There’s got to be a better way. Talk to someone, talk to a friend.